A funeral service is a vital and integrative part of beginning to heal from the loss of a loved one or friend. It is of the utmost importance to all the bereaved family and friends to have a well prepared funeral service, a ceremony that is unique, individual and delivered with compassion, sincerity and care.
In 2002 the law changed to allow Civil Funerals in England which are described as being ceremonies befitting the lifestyle, belief and wishes of the deceased and not the Minister or Officiant. Irene and Kathy can provide that alternative – you can now plan a non religious, or semi religious ceremony to suit the beliefs and attitudes of the deceased. This can include hymns and prayers or they can be omitted entirely; family members and close friends can participate in the ceremony by providing, readings, poems or personal tributes or if preferred they can be read by the Celebrant. Because the ceremony is designed and created for you, you have the choice – what is important is that the service is unique and memorable and above all honours that person’s life.
As your funeral Celebrant, I will meet you in your own home or at your chosen funeral director. This meeting generally takes one to two hours. During this time, we will explore ways of making the service as meaningful and as personalised as possible. Participation by family and friends is always encouraged.
Once all of the elements of the service are discussed and decided upon, I will write an appropriate and customised service. In this way, we can create a smooth-flowing, beautifully crafted tribute for your loved one.
As necessary, I will assist the various speakers before the event and oversee the ceremony’s design and delivery.
During the event, I will facilitate and guide the proceedings, make any necessary announcements, as well as leading individuals through any rituals within the ceremony.
Non Religious Services
The deceased person may have had one of the following beliefs:
- Humanist – One who rejects religion in favour of a belief in the advancement of humanity by its own efforts
- Agnostic – One who holds that knowledge of a supreme being is impossible
- Atheist – One who is not certain of the existence of a Supreme Being without any evidence and so rejects a belief in God
It is important to consider that although the deceased may have had one of these beliefs there may be people attending the ceremony who do have a faith. This should be respected and taken into consideration.
A short period of quiet reflection may be included in the service so that a quiet prayer may be given by those who wish to do so.
Religious symbols may be removed before the service if so desired.
I can design a ceremony that is befitting.
Semi Religious Services
This is the most appropriate type of service where the deceased person was a Christian but not a churchgoer.
Many people have a faith, and although not recognising any particular body or Church still have a spiritual feeling inside. They feel that the Church has lost significance for them but would still like the service to include elements of faith. These expressions may include hymns, prayers, readings, or poetry that have a particular significance to either the deceased or those attending the funeral.
Interment of Ashes
The interment of the deceased’s ashes could take place several weeks or even months after the funeral ceremony, and therefore it is not intended that this ceremony be a second funeral. The focus will be on welcoming the deceased’s remains to a new place of rest where family and friends will be able to feel close to their loved ones in days to come.